Energetic grounding to our physical body: Are you grounded? Is your child?

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Grounding for Highly Sensitive, Intuitive, and Spiritually Aware Children and Teens.

Are you wondering how to help your child ground or be more centered and present?

In this post, I invite you to a brief journey of exploring what is grounding and whether grounding is always the desired state.

What is Grounding

Energetic grounding or spiritual grounding refers to whether we are centered in our physical being, present in reality, and aligned with the Earth.

Are we present?

Are we here in the now?

I assume many of you are familiar with those mornings when everyone is awake, but nothing goes as planned. The kids walk around the house like zombies. Everything their sibling says annoys them, and they’re constantly bickering about nothing.

We try hugging them. We try getting them dressed and ready, but it’s pointless. Things constantly dissolve into frustrated tears, ours as well as theirs, and they can’t explain why they are like this.

In some families, this type of situation repeats itself throughout the whole day, coloring everything for everyone. If this is you, fully or partially, please know that you are not alone and that many solutions, when applied with alignment, can transform your child’s everyday and yours.

A step deeper into what energetic grounding is

We are spirits embodying a physical body, meaning it is not only our physical body we need to have with us during our daily adventures.

We need our luminous parts, fields, halo, energy, we call it by many names, to be with us as well, and not only with us, but anchored, communicating, and aligned with our physical body.

We are energetically grounded when our luminous field, our energy bodies, are aligned to those of our physical body and are here on Earth, connected to the ground, the soil, the local energy.

The action of grounding is the action of aligning our luminous parts with our physical body.

We pull it down towards the ground, thereby grounding ourselves. Staying present is not always a natural state.

For many children today, and more so for Spiritually Aware Children, New Earth children, highly sensitive children, and/or intuitive children,, it’s not an issue of grounding. They easily travel between dimensions of reality. It is an issue of balance.

Before we talk about balance, let’s align our shared understanding of a few more concepts.

How does being energetically grounded feel?

Feeling energetically grounded feels good and focused.

When we are grounded, our thoughts are clear.

We know how we feel.

Decision-making is easy.

We are present, able to experience what is going on around us.

We are able to connect with others, listen, pay attention, flow with various activities, stay concentrated on our task, whether reading a book, learning, cooking, or walking the dog.

We can enjoy the moment without worrying about the next.

Being grounded and present is a state that allows being.

Manifestation of our wants or needs is not possible if we are not present. We can come up with the most brilliant ideas, even start working on bringing them to life. But if we are not present here on Earth, within and around our physical body, manifestation will be hindered or come with an unaligned push and efforts.

What about when we are not grounded or present? How does it feel When we are not energetically grounded?

When we are not grounded to our physical body, we might walk down the street and miss a familiar turn.

We may become anxious about little things that normally seem insignificant.

The less grounded we are, the longer and more challenging it is for us to return to focus.

Those of us who are more sensitive and aware of our energetic fields may feel like our energy has expanded to the far ends of our reach.

As children embody the presence of their energy and their soul parts, they become increasingly present, grounded, able to focus and manifest.

It’s tough to be present when you’re not grounded.

Decision-making is difficult.

We worry relentlessly about what has happened in the past and what might happen in the future.

We find it hard to be in the now, hard to enjoy things or have fun.

Our patience levels are lower.

Everything takes longer and feels more challenging.

Children in such a state are scattered and/or floaty, and they constantly feel under attack by normal daily demands.

It’s hard for them to keep up, and they may be in a continuous state of anxiety and overwhelm evoked by mundane elements of daily life.

And it’s not because they don’t try.

They are just not fully here.

A bit on grounding techniques

There are many techniques for grounding. Some, like naming or various mindfulness techniques, bring our attention to the now. In others, we work through and with our physical body. These techniques often aim to bring us back.

Yet, if these are the terms we use, bringing us back, we also need to ask where from?

To start exploring the where from question, we may first need to align ourselves also around the notions of a light body, energy layer so that we can understand what they are and how they relate to grounding. There are many terms that refer to the energy layers around us: auras, luminous energy field, and others.

Most of us here, at least to some extent, are aware of the luminous layers surrounding us.

If you have not yet felt your own energy, try placing your palms facing one another but not touching, and with a very delicate back and forth movement, create a ball of light in between your hands. The tingling you may feel is your energy.

We observe or sense our luminous field, our light bodies, as surrounding our physical body.

However, they don’t always surround us. During different activities, different energetic centers are awake and active, while others are more dormant. Kirlian photography, for example, shows how energy concentrates in specific areas, such as around our head or around our heart, as a function of what we are doing.

Which invites us to observe the lack of presence, a child not being grounded, as a symptom.

To deepen our exploration here, allow me to generally define not being grounded as a state in which part of our luminous energy field, our light bodies, is not fully present or aligned with our physical layer.

Wording it in a simple way, we are physically present in our body, but some of our energetic layers are not fully here with us. Can that be?

Between grounding and soul retrieval

The shamanic concept of soul parts may help us better understand this idea.

What are soul parts? Symbolically and simplified, soul parts are part of our energy, our soul, that for some reason, at some point in time, could not be in our physical vessel, and left it, distancing themselves from our physical form. They are a quantum of our own energy.

This can happen because something in the physical world was too much for them, or because of a violent situation or enormous physical or emotional pain.

Sometimes something insignificant happens, really nothing at all, that triggers a pattern or memory from past lives. The soul part can’t handle it and departs. Some fragments return as soon as a situation is resolved, but others do not. Instead, they go to various places where when it is safe again, we can find them and bring them back using shamanic techniques.

Sadly, the parts that find it hard to be present are often the healed part, the trusting, creative, open, loving, and calm elements.

Understanding what soul parts are (see more on Soul Retrieval with Children and Teens Here), let’s return to the notion of grounding as a symptom.

Most people I know, most of the clients I’ve met, especially children, are either grounded most of the time or are not grounded most of the time.

Trying to help them ground without looking at the source of their choice to not be in their physical body is often a Sisyphean process.

We manage to help center them a bit, but as we only address a symptom, the symptom of grounding, within a short time, they are usually back to their normal state of not being aligned with their physical self.

From the shamanic perspective of soul retrieval, the process of retrieving and inviting soul parts back, there is another component to be addressed, little imaginary friends.

Little Imaginary friends…

Energies around us, unseen, who are looking or were looking for a home and found it within our child’s energy field.

Our kids often enjoy the presence of these energies.

Many of them, invite them in, unaware.

However, just as our physical bodies are ours, so are our energy bodies. Only our presence and soul parts should be in them.

When we have guests, it’s crowded, and it’s harder for our own soul parts to find their place. And if our own soul parts can’t be with us, we become anxious and can’t ground.

Is this a case for every anxious child? Every child who can’t ground, focus, or be present? No, but it is a very common scenario.

When working with these children, we start by clearing the energies that do not belong to them and helping those energies find their way home. Once there is room, the child’s own soul parts start to return.

As they embody their presence, the children become increasingly present, grounded, able to focus and manifest.

Case stories

Let me share a brief case story with you. One of my clients is a 13-year-old girl. We started working together for many reasons. I worked with her directly and also received input from her mom. One of the things that annoyed her mom was that she felt her daughter could not finish anything. She would get excited about something, playing, drawing, crafts, but within a short period of time, she would lose interest.

While this was not the reason they approached me, our work led to results in this area. The more she cleared energies that were not her own or were hers but did not serve her, such as patterns from other lifetimes, the more soul parts returned to her.

She became more whole in her energetics, and once she was whole, she could stay focused on her choices for longer periods of time.

Here is another case story of a highly sensitive, highly intuitive, empathic, and spiritually aware eight-year-old boy. Qualities that often come together, but not always. We worked a few times, and our work seemed to help him with anxiety and other issues. We then met over Zoom so I could teach him how to notice where his light bodies were and how to clear out energies he was picking up unaware wherever he went.

About two weeks later, his mother reflected that her son created a new habit. When they return home, he takes off his shoes, even if it’s raining, and jumps around in the dirt. She clarified that he knows this is not what I taught him when we met, but that he says this works better, using it in his own way, unique way.

I am sharing this example because kids know what’s right for them. This boy understood the concept of connecting and giving to the ground and is doing it in a way that feels right to him. His parents decided to let things happen in their own pace and not say anything when they felt he was again more floaty. Not saying anything does not mean something is not said through our energy.

Our energies communicate. Often our mere intention and awareness to allow the dance of being more or less present is already a grounding invitation.

Summary

If the perspective on grounding shared in this episode meets you, I invite you to explore more in the next episode/post, Energetic Grounding in Transformative Time.

The perspective shared in this episode/post comes from a larger bird’s eye view on parenting: SPIRITUALLY AWARE PARENTING, and from my work with spiritually aware children and families using shamanic-based techniques.

Some families step into spiritually aware parenting because of the invitations their children offer, such as when to ground and understanding that not always.

Others step into spiritually aware parenting because of their interest in expanding their parenting toolbox and their children’s toolbox with energy or spiritual beyond religion perspectives and tools. Is this for you?

To answer this question, I prepared a free download, Stepping Into Spiritually Aware Parenting, exploring various possible gateways.

You can learn more about it here