A perspective on children and teens, but not only…
What if, in these times, you are not supposed to be grounded and constantly present in your physical, literal reality?
What if your child, an evolved soul, did not come here to be bounded in their physical body, but to fly?
Many children today easily travel between dimensions of reality.
In one moment, they are present and centered, and in the next, they seem to be daydreaming, possibly going to do something somewhere else.
In our physical reality, it seems like they are not listening to us. If they need to engage in an activity, they can’t concentrate, or they become frustrated and anxious.
It is not because they are not able to be present, as in the two examples I shared in the previous episode and post. It is because they are busy doing something in a world we can’t see, sometimes aware of it themselves and often not.
Grounding and active reception
A common situation among sensitive children is active reception.
They perceive much more input from the environment around them and are not always able to filter it.
Therefore, many of them can’t handle noise or being around more than a small number of people and they may return home overwhelmed.
Being overwhelmed sends part of them out of their physical body, necessitating a much longer and intentional gathering or regathering into their physical presence.
More and more children who are spiritually aware and who travel easily between dimensions of reality and have the ability to sense and be receptive to subtleties of information, both concrete and energetic, live among us.
I often feel that part of our role as parents to these little luminous beings is to guide them when and how to come in and out so they can learn how to travel with intention.
With proper guidance, even the most sensitive children can learn how to gather themselves and return to their center and be present, also in situations that challenge them. They can learn to enjoy their gifts and benefit from them instead of their ability becoming a source of challenge in their lives.
Multidimensionality of our time
Considering the multidimensionality of our time, we’re invited to play with the following question:
Do we wish to be in our physical body?
Is grounding an ultimate goal?
Being constantly grounded might have been a goal in the past, but I feel it is not anymore.
So many children bring this ability to shift, move, and travel between dimensions that assuming they must only be here energetically grounded does not feel aligned. They ask to be able to shift. Staying continuously grounded is not supporting who they are in their essence.
Let me try to put my thoughts in order here…
We all chose to be here in a physical body, in form.
Yet we are all much more than our physical presence. Being in form does not mean we need to condense ourselves. It means we need to learn when we need to be fully present physically and also when we need to expand.
When I cook or cut vegetables, I must be fully present in my physical body. It’s not the right time for me to daydream or journey in parallel, as I could cut myself or burn something. I need to be fully present and focused.
On the other hand, when I create, I don’t want to be entirely focused. I want to open myself up to a broader web of connection, to expand and allow new ideas and thoughts to come in.
Writing is the best example for me. I don’t want my analytical mind present when I write. I invite it in when I revisit and edit, but not when I’m writing a draft. That is a time in which I ask to open myself to the possible and not limit myself to what I’ve already tried and done.
The same is true during shamanic work. I wish to expand myself and work through my shamanic eyes.
For many of us, and I believe for most of our children, it is about the motion in and out of our physical selves.
It is about knowing when we wish to be more in or more out, more expanded or more condensed in our physical body.
In many ways, we could also refer to it in the other direction.
Being OUT is actually being home in the universe…
Being IN our physical body is being out, somewhat disconnected from the more that we each are.
So we need to know where to source from in each moment.
What is the right balance for each of us?
It is both universal and personal. Once a child can control this movement, helping him, her, them ground energetically, is no longer an issue.
Am I grounded? Is my child grounded? Is a pair of lenses to look through.
Can everything be explained by asking if we are grounded, by observing if our kids are grounded or not?
That would make life so simple, wouldn’t it?
Asking if one is grounded or not is basically a way to observe, like a pair of lenses to look through.
Observing our child through the lenses of grounding allows a distinction between reasons and, very often, a quick resolution to previously challenging situations.
When the understanding that sometimes we are more centered and sometimes less becomes part of your family’s language, then you can simply reflect to yourself or to your child saying, “I see you are not here yet.”
The mere recognition and the patience allowing yourself or your child the needed time to return and come into presence is often enough.
Mornings are a challenging time, and so is the return home from school, work, and other activities that require concentrated efforts and are often taking place among many others. To center back and switch into the shared space, either when waking up or when returning home, many need grounding time.
Just identifying the cause can bring a significant relief.
You notice, you smile together, and then you slowly start to invite your child back, even if still during the drive back home.
Some of us find it easier to be grounded. Many children are just here.
For others, including myself, it’s easier to be wandering in other dimensions outside of our physical body.
Spiritually aware children fly out easily and quickly. It’s not something they have to learn, it’s something they know, just as they know how to breathe. We each need to know where our challenge is. Is it to ground again or to fly out? And then to learn our point of balance and unity.
What does grounding feel like to you?
I would love for you to share your experiences here below in the comments or by responding to one of my newsletters.
… and if this perspective on grounding shared in this episode meets you, I invite you to explore more in the previous episode: Grounding for Highly Sensitive, Intuitive, and Spiritually Aware Children and Teens.
Summary
The perspective shared in this episode comes from a larger bird’s-eye view on parenting, Spiritually Aware Parenting, and from my work with spiritually aware children and families using shamanic based techniques.
Some families step into spiritually aware parenting because of the invitations their children offer, such as when to ground and the understanding that not always.
Others step into spiritually aware parenting because of their interest in expanding their parenting toolbox and their children’s toolbox with spiritual and energetic tools that go beyond religion.
Is this for you? To answer this question, I prepared a free download, Stepping into Spiritually Aware Parenting, exploring various possible gateways.
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